Pink is for girls and blue is for boys?

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As someone whose dissertation was entitled ‘The Social Construction of Masculinity and Femininity through Fashion and Clothing’ (or something along those lines, it WAS almost 20 years ago) I was intrigued to come across this article in Smithsonian magazine.

These days, when you visit the home of someone with a newborn you can generally deduce whether the baby is a boy or a girl just by looking at the colour of the greeting cards displayed around the house. Similarly, children’s clothing stores are divided along gender lines with rails filled with pink on the girls’ side and blue for the boys. According to the article, however, it was only in the early 20th century that certain colours acquired gender connotations and until the 1940s blue was generally associated with girls while pink was mainly worn by boys.

Some argue that gender specific colours help to perpetuate traditional masculine and feminine stereotypes from the moment a baby is born. In Sweden for instance there is a big and very vocal gender movement, and some daycare nurseries operate a gender neutral policy where children are encouraged to dress against stereotype and are never referred to as ‘he’ or ‘she’. Maybe I’m not looking in the right places, but I have not seen the argument taken to that extent in this country.

I do remember that some people thought it was strange that, as babies, I put both my boys in (navy blue or white, never pink!) tights as they were born in the winter and socks never stayed on for long. Until he was three and a half, my eldest son’s favourite colour was pink but then he started preschool and suddenly decided that it was ‘for girls’.

I have to admit to sitting on the fence of this debate. While I think gender stereotyping can be very damaging, especially in the education system and workplace, I’m not wholly convinced that adopting a gender neutral dress code is the answer. When, after two boys, I had a girl I promptly bought a pink cover for the buggy and I was so excited about finally being able to cross over to the ‘girlie’ side in stores that I didn’t even contemplate dressing her in boys’ clothes (although I probably had enough hand-me-downs to last several years). She often wears jeans or leggings but I’m not sure I would ever pair them with a dinosaur or monster truck T-shirt. Whether this is because I’m a slave to social convention or simply because I myself tend to dress in feminine clothing is open to debate (and I suppose one could argue that the latter is a direct result of the former).

That’s not to say that I expect her to behave like a ‘dainty little girl’. She’s as likely to play with the cars and trains as with the dolls and tea set and I’m hopefully bringing all my children up to believe that, as long as they work hard, they can choose any profession they want. Maybe I’m an idealist, but I don’t think we should have to dress the same in order to be equal.

What do you think? Does it matter whether we dress our children in pink or blue or are we enforcing gender stereotypes by doing this?

Sunny Sunday and Outfit of the Day

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One of my favourite outfits this summer is this white shirt from River Island teamed with a pair of ‘Sexy Boyfriend’ (their words, not mine) denim shorts from Gap. Loose and comfortable enough for daytime but add a pair of metallic wedges and the whole ensemble is suitable for casual dinners out too.

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Still lots of packing to do, but we took some time out to play in the garden and I took some snaps of the boys having fun in the sunshine. I’ve realised that I don’t have enough pictures of them in the blog, as they’re usually at school all day, but I’m hoping to rectify that over the summer holidays.

My handsome first born. Can't believe he will be ten this autumn!

My handsome first born. Can’t believe he will be ten this autumn!

Staying in PJs until lunch time is one of the perks of being on summer holiday

Staying in PJs until lunch time is one of the perks of being on summer holiday

A very English game of cricket

A very English game of cricket

My husband took this shot of one of the many bumblebees currently residing on the lavender in our back garden

My husband took this shot of one of the many bumblebees currently residing on the lavender in our back garden

Just like Honey

Celebrating the arrival of the weekend with a glass of wine and a bowl of black cherries last night

Celebrating the arrival of the weekend with a glass of wine and a bowl of black cherries last night

The last weekend before we go on holiday and it’s been busy, busy so far. I haven’t even started doing any packing, just loads of washing and organising all the travel documents and maps that we need for the journey. If anyone has any tips on how to pack for a family of five going on a two week holiday (with quite a lot of travelling around by car) to a country where sunny weather cannot be guaranteed, they would be much appreciated!

Luckily, we have borrowed a large roof box from my parents as I need to leave room in the car for all the things I want to buy and transport back home. There are some really lovely quirky interior and fashion shops both in Denmark and southern Sweden that are on my list of places to visit, in between the beach (weather permitting), Legoland and other children’s attractions. Many of them don’t ship outside Scandinavia and some of the items I have my eye on  (like a bookshelf – I only mentioned that to the husband last night but he seems to think we can fit it in, even if one of the children has to travel in the roof box on the way back (only joking!!) are too big to send by post.

But for now we’re enjoying another sunny weekend and having spent much of the week at home overseeing the enforced bathroom renovations, I felt the need to escape for a couple of hours this morning. A brisk walk along the river followed by a latte in Costa Coffee and a leisurely stroll around the shops did the trick. I even managed to have my first sniff of Marc Jacob’s new perfume, Honey and, as I had expected, it smelled divine. Quite unlike me, I didn’t buy it right then and there as hopefully they will sell it in the duty free shop on the ferry.

Hope you all have a fabulous weekend!

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About the return of the heatwave and the trauma of a leaking pipe…

From this…

Wearing our wellies to take the boys to tennis camp on Tuesday

Wearing our wellies to take the boys to tennis camp on Tuesday

to this in just a couple of days:

Cooling down with some water play

Cooling down with some water play

Seeking shade in the playhouse at the bottom of the garden

Seeking shade in the playhouse at the bottom of the garden

Today saw the return of the heatwave after a few days of rain and thank goodness for that! At least Clemmie and I can spend time in the garden as our house is taken over by builders and covered in dust and debris. And there won’t even be a lovely shiny new kitchen or extension at the end of it, as they’re here to fix a leaking pipe buried deep in the wall of our downstairs cloakroom.

We need to get it fixed before we go on holiday as the consequences if it ruptured even more while we were away do not bear thinking about. Once the leak has been repaired all the walls and the ceiling have to dry out which will necessitate moving our fridge freezer and two large kitchen cupboards into the dining area (as that wall backs onto the cloakroom) which is not ideal when you have three kids and an already cramped kitchen…

But every cloud, as they say, has a silver lining. At least the downstairs loo was on the list of rooms we hadn’t decorated since moving here six years ago, so I’m trying very hard to see this as an opportunity to replace the wood-effect laminate floor and pink walls with something more tasteful.

From this…

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to something like this in a couple of months if we’re lucky

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This Week’s Favourites

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Cameron made me a lovely bracelet at school and I was very touched by his thoughtfulness.

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Some summer reading to bring with me when we go on holiday in ten days’ time. I saw The Great Gatsby at the cinema a few weeks ago but have never actually read the book while the other two are easy chick-lit books that you can dip in and out of.

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On Wednesday the boys’ schools finished for the summer and they are definitely ready for some time off. It’s been hard for them going to school in the very hot weather but, of course, now that the summer holiday has started the temperatures have dropped.

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I was a very brave mummy and went out for lunch with all three children who actually surprised me by behaving remarkably well.

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A trip to the cinema to see Monsters University.

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This weekend we headed off to Bristol to visit one of my best friends and her family. We stayed up until almost 2am (not great when you have small kids who like to get up by 6.30…), drinking wine and chatting for hours as you do when you’re with friends who you love dearly but don’t see enough of. Large mugs of strong coffee and fry ups all around this morning, and we were ready to spend a few hours at Bristol Zoo.

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Exhausted after too little sleep and the long drive home, we ordered an Indian takeaway and flopped on the sofa. Home sweet home!

School’s out for Summer!

All images from Pintrest

All images from Pintrest

The boys finished school today and we had a great afternoon in the park together with friends from both their classes. We have two weeks left until we go on holiday and I’m keeping my fingers and toes crossed that this sunny weather continues until then.

I’m looking forward to six weeks of no school run, homework or after school activities!

This week’s favourites

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The sun is still with us so I got the water table out and Clemmie had a fun time splashing around and pouring water everywhere (including the sand pit which I was not too happy about!)

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Clemmie finished playgroup this week and while she was at her last session I headed to a local cafe for a latte and a quick browse through the latest issue of Living Etc magazine. I had a to-do list as long as my arm, but it was my last child-free hour until she starts preschool in September so I wanted to make the most of it!

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While I was in the village I also bought some yummy chocolates to give to the lovely ladies who have been looking after her at playgroup.

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Sports Day in the sweltering heat! The kids all did well and kept smiling despite the sun beating down while they were doing their running and egg-and-spoon races.

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Buying peonies on a Friday has become a rather nice habit. Sometimes my husband has even been known to buy them for me!

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I went to a charity dinner on Friday night organised by my good friend Vicky to raise money for Street League and won this beautiful bracelet in the raffle.

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My eldest son and I kicked off Sunday morning with a power walk around the village and a nice chat about school, Minecraft and football.

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After a full day of cycling, barbecuing, swimming and eating tons of strawberries, one member of the household simply could not keep their eyes open any longer!

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It’s been a full-on weekend so I’m tempted to do the same after finishing my glass of wine and a couple of squares of Lindt’s Blueberry Intense dark chocolate.

Growing up fast – Boys’ bedroom ideas

I’m sure I’m not the only mum who feels like this, but sometimes I look at my first-born and I can’t help but wonder where the years have gone. Is it really a decade since I struggled into work, heavily pregnant in the heatwave of 2003, excited but also a little bit scared at the prospect of becoming a mum?

This autumn he turns ten and there are already a few signs of pre-teen behaviour lurking in the shadows. Moodiness, yes, and a burgeoning desire for time alone to listen to music, read or just stare into space (preparing for all those hours of teenage angst no doubt!) but also a growing maturity that seems to manifest itself in a more caring and considerate approach to those around him (with the possible exception of his little brother!).

On a more practical level, he is definitely starting to outgrow his pirate-themed bedroom decor and we have started to look at different ideas in magazines and on Pintrest with a view to redecorating his room after the summer. He’s keen on a feature wall with graffiti wallpaper to offset an otherwise neutral colour scheme with white walls and wooden floor boards. On the whole, I would like to make sure that it is a room that will last him for quite a few years and can easily be updated by changing a few details like cushions, rugs and art work (or more likely, posters tacked on to the walls!).

Here is a selection of what we have found so far:

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All images from my Pintrest board Boys’ Bedrooms (link)

Wake up and smell the coffee!

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The one major downside to this lovely summer weather we’re experiencing at the moment is that the children are finding it really hard to get to sleep. Even when we open all the windows upstairs the heat is stifling as there is virtually no wind. Last night was particularly bad and I can count the number of hours I slept on one hand. I think we really need to invest in some fans although I’ve heard that they’ve sold out nearly everywhere. Looks like we’re not the only ones suffering…

I impressed myself by making it to my gym class this morning and then kept myself going by putting my new Stelton coffee press to good use. After all that caffeine I feel wide awake now, when really I should be trying to get an early night…

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Designed by Erik Magnussen for Stelton in 1977, the classic vacuum jug now comes as a press coffee maker in four different finishes. Available from John Lewis for £44.95

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This week’s favourites

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No more buggy! All three children ready for the school run on their scooters.

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I hardly dare say it aloud but this amazing weather just keeps on coming. This week we got the water slide out for the boys and they had lots of fun in the garden.

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A couple of new purchases in the Sale – a jumper in a pretty coral colour from Swedish brand Hunky Dory and a platter from Iittala (bought from the Royal Design webshop) that I’m using as a tray for the oils and spices that I most frequently use for cooking.

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For the third weekend in a row we went over to my parents’ house for a cooling dip in the pool and a barbecue dinner.

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We rounded off the weekend with yet another birthday party for Clemmie – this time with Grandparents and Godparents – and I’ve now eaten enough cake to last me all summer!