My New Year’s Resolutions

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According to Wikipedia:  A New Year’s resolution is a tradition, most common in the Western Hemisphere  but also found in the Eastern Hemisphere, in which a person makes a promise to do an act of self-improvement or something slightly nice, such as opening doors for people beginning from New Year’s Day.

 

Love them or loathe them, New Year’s resolutions are part and parcel of the month of January. We’re only three days in and already I have read umpteen blog posts on the topic so I thought I would throw my two pennies worth in as well. Looking back on my resolutions from last year I’m pleased to see that they were suitably vague as to allow me to claim some modicum of success for most of them. I did manage to go to the gym with some sort of regularity, even if it was just once or twice a week. There can never be enough one-to-one time with the children but at least I made it one of my top priorities in the last 12 months and will continue to do so in 2015. The big clear out of clutter is on-going but some proper headway has been made since this time last year and all the baby paraphernalia is now gone. I haven’t added up and compared my spending in 2014 to the previous year, but I think that at the very least I became more mindful about what I spent my cash on, resulting in fewer mistake buys. The smoothie-making fell by the wayside before January 2014 drew to a close but, as my last resolution was to be kinder to myself, I will let that one go without too much admonishment.

So, what about this year? As the 12 months of 2015 stretch before us like unwritten pages, I am somewhat at a loss to come up with things that I want to achieve this year. Like most people I want to be happy and healthy and I wish the same for my family but that’s hardly going to set me off on some great path to self improvement. However, I do want to work on being able to let things go more easily and not obsess over what other people have said or done or worry so much about how they may have interpreted things that I have said or done.

A year ago I was less than one month into a new job that involved writing about an industry that was completely new to me, and one thing that I have realised over the past 12 months is that I love to learn and to challenge myself. As much as I love being a mum, now that the children are all at full time school, having a job that I enjoy has given me a renewed sense of purpose and helped me carve out an identity apart from that of ‘wife and mother’. So I guess one of my resolutions is to carry on learning and get better at my job while still striving to have a healthy work/family balance.

Lately I’ve been craving a more minimalist lifestyle and by that I don’t mean painting my walls white and wearing sharply cut Helmut Lang but rather a change in attitude towards valuing experiences over material possessions. Having too much stuff can weigh us down emotionally plus trying to keep on top of the clutter takes time away from doing other more enjoyable things. Over the past couple of months I have been purging my wardrobe of things I no longer wear and while I am still some way off having a capsule wardrobe, it has made an enormous difference.

On a more frivolous note I could do with stepping up my grooming regime a notch – there comes a time when the unkempt look is just unkempt, rather than channeling Kate Moss at Glastonbury. Let this be the year that I take my nail polish off as soon as it starts to chip rather than leaving it for another five days, pluck my brows every week, invest in an eyelash curler and wear jewellery (other than my wedding rings) and matching underwear every day.

New Year’s resolutions are obviously not my forte; it took me about an hour to come up with that rather meager list. So, do tell, what are your resolutions for 2015?

P.S. Just as I was about to press Publish I came across this New Year’s resolutions questionnaire here so I thought I would add my answers to this post:

A bad habit I’m going to break: Worrying too much

A destination I’d like to visit: California

I’m going to work harder at: Not stressing when we’re getting ready to leave for school in the mornings

A project I’d like to finish: Our new kitchen extension

A class I’d like to take: Photography

I’d like to spend more time doing: Traveling

A food I want to eat more of: Leafy greens

I want to wear more: Jewellery

 

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20 thoughts on “My New Year’s Resolutions

  1. Hello, great resolutions. Mine are in the realm of fitness, finance and furniture, but I haven’t quite worked out the details yet! I like your resolution about not worrying anymore about how people may have interpreted what you’ve said/done. This is something I need to work on too. All the best for the year ahead!xx

    • Oh fitness, finance and furniture all sound great, can’t wait to read about it. Yes I definitely worry too much. I know that people always say that most things we worry about will never happen but then I just worry that it I don’t worry they will happen! Crazy or what? All the best to you as well. xx

      • I know what you mean. They say worry is like interest on money you haven’t earned – or something. But it’s easy to feel anxious about things we can’t control. I aspire to have a happy medium of thinking about what could happen, and coming up with a plan of how I would deal with it, then trying to forget it. Or having set worrying times and outside of those times you’re not allowed to worry! Read that in a book somewhere. I think some worry is normal and healthy. I need to stop worrying about all the little things – like thinking about how someone may have interpreted something I said. Again, it’s a balance. We can’t sail through life not thinking of what others may think but we can’t obsess either! Sorry, have written a mini-post here!

  2. I love your list! I desperately need to find something for ME this year. I am longing for an identity outside of wife and mother. While I no longer desire to simplify as much as a capsule wardrobe or to have my belongings all fit into one room, I do still love the idea of scaling down. I’m still working on my resolutions/goals for the year, but I’m digging the questionnaire at the end of your post!

    • I just wish I had found the questionnaire earlier as it would have saved me writing the first part of the post! I was very lucky to land this job when I wasn’t even looking and that it is something I enjoy (mostly anyway). However there are downsides too, I have less time for things like exercise, seeing friends, blogging and keeping on top of the chores. I also think that carving out an identity that is separate from other roles doesn’t necessarily have to involve paid work, it can be about pursuing your interests and hobbies and fulfilling other goals (like running a half marathon! which by the way is on my list of things to do one day!) Decluttering is high on my agenda as we are having building work done and have just lost the playroom and dining room (and soon the kitchen) for a good few weeks! X

  3. We took our decorations down today, but rather than revealing a blissfully calm backdrop it’s just revealed a pile of clutter. So my resolution is to de-clutter this year. No mean feat in a family of hoarders. But hopefully, with stealth by the time they notice it’ll be too late!
    I also love your resolution about being kinder to yourself.

    • Yes the way to do it is to throw things out when they don’t see you doing it! We finally cleared out all our CDs last week although they are still sitting in a box in the living room waiting for my husband to send them off to some online place that will pay us about £5 for 50 CDs…
      What are the odds that I will take them to the charity shop before he gets around to it? X

      • Oh, definitely!
        We have an old TV sat in the middle of our living room that the husband wanted us to hang on for until we have s day dry enough to put it out on the street for a random passer-by to take. I’ve instead opted for it to go to the tip. Like a normal person would do.

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  5. Happy New Year, hun! Love your list.:) Photography sounds like a great class to take! I am considering it myself. I would also love to learn how to code. I am with you on not worrying. That’s wayyyyy up there on my list along with being more patient, not feeling guilty, and complaining a whole lot less.

    xo

    D

    • Yes that sounds good to me. Worry and guilt are very unproductive emotions – hard to get rid of but will give it my best shot! I plan to sign up for the photography course that is starting in March – figure it’s nicer to go outside and take pictures when the weather is warmer! Coding sounds awesome but complicated!
      Happy new year! xx

  6. Happy New Year! I also am trying to be more “put together” but it’s hard when I am running around all three boys all the time. But that’s when I tell myself it’s even more important because (and this sounds very shallow) I feel better when I look better and I don’t want them to always see me looking haggard and haphazard. All the best in 2015!

    • Happy new year! I know exactly what you mean. I often think it’s not worth bothering wearing anything other than old jeans and a jumper when I spend most of my days working from home and when I leave the house to collect the kids I wear a coat anyway. But I always feel better in myself when I make at least a bit of an effort. X

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