Pink is for girls and blue is for boys?

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As someone whose dissertation was entitled ‘The Social Construction of Masculinity and Femininity through Fashion and Clothing’ (or something along those lines, it WAS almost 20 years ago) I was intrigued to come across this article in Smithsonian magazine.

These days, when you visit the home of someone with a newborn you can generally deduce whether the baby is a boy or a girl just by looking at the colour of the greeting cards displayed around the house. Similarly, children’s clothing stores are divided along gender lines with rails filled with pink on the girls’ side and blue for the boys. According to the article, however, it was only in the early 20th century that certain colours acquired gender connotations and until the 1940s blue was generally associated with girls while pink was mainly worn by boys.

Some argue that gender specific colours help to perpetuate traditional masculine and feminine stereotypes from the moment a baby is born. In Sweden for instance there is a big and very vocal gender movement, and some daycare nurseries operate a gender neutral policy where children are encouraged to dress against stereotype and are never referred to as ‘he’ or ‘she’. Maybe I’m not looking in the right places, but I have not seen the argument taken to that extent in this country.

I do remember that some people thought it was strange that, as babies, I put both my boys in (navy blue or white, never pink!) tights as they were born in the winter and socks never stayed on for long. Until he was three and a half, my eldest son’s favourite colour was pink but then he started preschool and suddenly decided that it was ‘for girls’.

I have to admit to sitting on the fence of this debate. While I think gender stereotyping can be very damaging, especially in the education system and workplace, I’m not wholly convinced that adopting a gender neutral dress code is the answer. When, after two boys, I had a girl I promptly bought a pink cover for the buggy and I was so excited about finally being able to cross over to the ‘girlie’ side in stores that I didn’t even contemplate dressing her in boys’ clothes (although I probably had enough hand-me-downs to last several years). She often wears jeans or leggings but I’m not sure I would ever pair them with a dinosaur or monster truck T-shirt. Whether this is because I’m a slave to social convention or simply because I myself tend to dress in feminine clothing is open to debate (and I suppose one could argue that the latter is a direct result of the former).

That’s not to say that I expect her to behave like a ‘dainty little girl’. She’s as likely to play with the cars and trains as with the dolls and tea set and I’m hopefully bringing all my children up to believe that, as long as they work hard, they can choose any profession they want. Maybe I’m an idealist, but I don’t think we should have to dress the same in order to be equal.

What do you think? Does it matter whether we dress our children in pink or blue or are we enforcing gender stereotypes by doing this?

Just like Honey

Celebrating the arrival of the weekend with a glass of wine and a bowl of black cherries last night

Celebrating the arrival of the weekend with a glass of wine and a bowl of black cherries last night

The last weekend before we go on holiday and it’s been busy, busy so far. I haven’t even started doing any packing, just loads of washing and organising all the travel documents and maps that we need for the journey. If anyone has any tips on how to pack for a family of five going on a two week holiday (with quite a lot of travelling around by car) to a country where sunny weather cannot be guaranteed, they would be much appreciated!

Luckily, we have borrowed a large roof box from my parents as I need to leave room in the car for all the things I want to buy and transport back home. There are some really lovely quirky interior and fashion shops both in Denmark and southern Sweden that are on my list of places to visit, in between the beach (weather permitting), Legoland and other children’s attractions. Many of them don’t ship outside Scandinavia and some of the items I have my eye on  (like a bookshelf – I only mentioned that to the husband last night but he seems to think we can fit it in, even if one of the children has to travel in the roof box on the way back (only joking!!) are too big to send by post.

But for now we’re enjoying another sunny weekend and having spent much of the week at home overseeing the enforced bathroom renovations, I felt the need to escape for a couple of hours this morning. A brisk walk along the river followed by a latte in Costa Coffee and a leisurely stroll around the shops did the trick. I even managed to have my first sniff of Marc Jacob’s new perfume, Honey and, as I had expected, it smelled divine. Quite unlike me, I didn’t buy it right then and there as hopefully they will sell it in the duty free shop on the ferry.

Hope you all have a fabulous weekend!

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Things that made me smile this week

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Coming back home from Sweden and seeing my boys again.

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Preparing the invites for Clemmie’s third birthday party next month. I can’t believe how fast time flies!

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Going to see Bjorn Again at the Hampton Court Festival with a group of friends and dancing to ABBA songs all night!

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Wearing my new dress for a night out at a riverside pub.

The highlight of the week was our Swedish Midsummer celebration with friends and family on Saturday. In Sweden the day is second only to Christmas and even though I haven’t lived there for many years it is nice to uphold some traditions.

All the children dressed up in their finery. I had to bribe the boys to wear shirts!

All the children dressed up in their finery. I had to bribe the boys to wear shirts!

Playing nicely on the seesaw

Playing nicely on the seesaw

I made a traditional strawberry cake and we all danced around the midsummer pole. I'm sure the neighbours think we're mad!

I made a traditional strawberry cake and we all danced around the midsummer pole. I’m sure the neighbours must think we’re mad!

Things that made me smile this week

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Seeing my daughter playing with her cousins

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Revisiting my hometown of Stockholm and being treated to some lovely summer weather

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Visiting the Odd Molly shop in central Stockholm where there was temptation on every rail. Unfortunately most pieces from the current collection were out of stock in my size.

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Staying at the fantastic Scandic Anglais Hotel

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Finding a gorgeous summer dress for only £30. Bring on the sunshine!

Heading for Stockholm ♥

A few of my Mateus pieces: I love the grey and pale pink colour combination

A few of my Mateus pieces: I love the grey and pale pink colour combination

I hate flying even more than I loathe packing but I love going on holiday so sometimes both are necessary. Today I have been rushing around packing a suitcase for me and Clemmie as we are going to Sweden tomorrow together with my mum. We are staying with my sister and her children who are aged two and four. I’m looking forward to seeing Clemmie playing with her little cousins although I will miss my boys who have to stay home to go to school. But I’m sure they will have a brilliant time with Daddy and they have a some exciting plans for the weekend (including Father’s Day on Sunday which I had completely forgotten about when I booked the trip. Whoops!).

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Although the main objective of the trip is to see family and friends, we are also spending two nights at the Hotel Scandic Anglais in Stockholm where I’m hoping a spot of shopping will be on the agenda. Unfortunately the exchange rate is not stacked in our favour so I won’t go mad (and with a two-year-old in tow you have to be fairly speedy as her patience quickly wears off). I collect china by a brand called Mateus (designed in Sweden and made in Portugal) and will definitely add a few pieces to my collection. They used to sell it in the Stockholm Design House concession in Selfridges but stopped about a year ago – I have no idea why as it is all gorgeous. I also plan to buy couple of posters by Vee Speers from photography gallery Fotografiska. At around £15 each they are extremely good value and will look gorgeous framed in our newly decorated bedroom.

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Princess Madeleine of Sweden’s stunning wedding dress

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Yesterday was a big day in Sweden as Princess Madeleine, the younger sister of Crown Princess Victoria, married US financier Christopher O’Neill. Her stunning dress was designed by Valentino who came out of retirement to create the gown. Made from silk organdies with applications of ivory Chantilly lace,  the dress featured a full skirt trailed by a statement-making 4-meter long train.

Over 400 guests attended the wedding in Stockholm with Prince Edward and Sophie, Countess of Wessex, representing the UK’s Royal family. The 30-year-old princess has been based in New York since 2010 and the newlyweds were expected to return to the US this week.

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